Without a doubt one of the greatest challenges that human beings face is communicating effectively with each other. Communications are effective between two people when we exchange information that brings about a shared understanding of an issue the parties involved agree they are discussing. This is a clean and honest communication.
But as we know, far more often than not, it isn’t that simple. Oftentimes, we come at each other with communications that are not about a shared understanding at all- they are a one-way game being played by one against another. This game playing is a form of masked communication and it happens at every level of relationship.
So if you have ever found yourself saying this phrase to someone during an exchange
“I just wanted to see what you were going to say”
you need to stop, drop, and roll because your own pants are on fire in that moment. Using masked communication can backfire at worst and undermine at best. Whatever dishonesty and deceit you were trying to uncover in the other person has actually taken root in you and emerged in your own masked communications.
If manipulation is the purpose of any communication, it will neither promote a productive exchange nor a healthy relationship with whomever is receiving the communication. So leave interrogation techniques and tricks to detectives and investigators. If you want effective communication
STOP & TAKE OFF THE MASK & JUST ASK WHAT YOU WANT TO KNOW & SAY WHAT YOU WANT TO SAY
You may find that you really like what happens when you drop that mask and just show the face that it is hiding. The other person will certainly appreciate it.
You win either way because you get the answers you are seeking and you have the unmasked truth to stand on.
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