Breaking News: Human beings are complex- those that can hold your attention for more than a few minutes at a time tend to be anyway. And because human beings are complex, the relationships between them tend to be complex as well. Sometimes beautifully complex, but contradictory and challenging just the same. It is not always easy to navigate through all of that complexity so simple rules of engagement can be very helpful to remember. Here is a personal favorite:
It is better to have certainty in your solitude than confusion in your companionship.
Solitude has gotten a bad rap over the years with all of the commercial exploitation of relationships- both romantic and otherwise. But there are times when your own company is the best company you can keep. Being certain within yourself is the prerequisite for certainty with anybody else. So if any companionship of yours has caught a confusion cold, don’t hesitate to prescribe some solitude to let that bug work itself out. Whether the source of the confusion is you or its them (hint: it is probably both), spending some time alone is the surefire way to figure it out. So take the leap my friends and enjoy keeping your own company.